Dear Marjie,

I just found out I’m pregnant and my current boyfriend is not the father.  I know for sure because he and I have always used protection.  And yes, I know who my child’s father is but he’s a loser.  My child’s father and I were only supposed to be just hanging out, but as you see, it became more than just hanging out and stupidly, we were unprotected.

I don’t wanna tell my boyfriend because he’s a good dude and I’m not trying to lose him.  He provides for me, he’s supportive and I know he would take care of me and my baby.  I didn’t tell my child’s father and I don’t plan on it because I think it’s better that way.  He has no money and really can’t give me or the baby much of anything.  Why should I give up a good thing for a loser?

My friends think I’m being selfish but I don’t see it that way.  Is it selfish for me to want me and my baby to be taken care of?

Baby Daddy Drama

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Dear Baby Daddy Drama,

Recap, you are passing off another man’s child on your boyfriend because he can pay the bills and the daddy can’t?  You slept with him, even though he’s a loser, so soon before/after your boyfriend that you can play the bait and switch on them?  I’m not even going to address the unprotected sex with some loser because that’s a given.

Your friends are right!  This is selfish.  Not only because you are willing to do this to someone you “care” about because he can provide, but because you can do this to your own child.  You do realize that  your CHILD has a right to know his father don’t you?  You do realize that, God forbid, there are any health issues in the child’s father’s family it would be important to your CHILD’S health.  You do realize that even the best kept secrets have a way of getting out and the fact that your friends think your being selfish means – guess what – THEY KNOW.  Seriously, do you expect to keep gossip that juicy quiet forever – really – c’mon really? 

See, chicks like you keep people like Maury and Jerry Springer in business – sure we all gasp when the DNA results are read, but think about it, what do you think the audience thinks of the baby’s mama?  Think hard now because if you try to play this one off, one day it will be YOU hearing those words, “Dude, you are NOT the father.”  Tell me, just curious, are you the fall on the stage type or will you go running into the back to throw yourself on the couch – just curious.

I’m not trying to make you feel badly about your baby, or his daddy, but I am trying to make you realize that this is the recipe for DISASTER.  Save yourself the heartbreak, drama and pain – confess.  Don’t build something with a man who is good to you based on a lie, a lie which is so huge and so important that once you’ve perpetrated it you will have ruined not only your life, but your man’s, the baby’s and the baby’s father’s life.  It won’t be easy, I know, but it will be the best possible way to start creating a life for a child who should always be able to look at you with pride.

Good luck and hoping that I do not see you on Maury,

Marjie

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