I was reading an article on Madame Noire and they pointed out some ways to know if you are “Saditty.”  Here are a couple of points that stood out to me:

You don’t respond to a “holla.” 

• Whether he’s a sexy brown-skinned cutie with low-frequency waves or a greasy brotha in Deebo’s house shoes, holla-speak like “Psst!” and “Eh, Miss Lady” is unworthy of acknowledgment.

You don’t go Dutch on a date, ever.

(for more signs, check out the article HERE).

Okayyyy.  Now I don’t know about you, but that really doesn’t strike me as “saditty.”  AT ALL.  To me, that’s just having standards, as anyone should.

Having standards means you know and understand your worth.  So, you’re not just going to go for the “oh emm geee, he just spoke to me, so I must acknowledge him because any kind of male attention is better than none, right?” *insert dazed and confused face here*

Umm, excuse me?  You’re joking…right?  How about those kinds of guys find the type of female that doesn’t require much to respond to that nonsense.  Why must a female stop and speak to any guy if he doesn’t even have the decency to speak to her like she’s a lady instead of speaking to her like she’s one of his friends?  Tell him to exit stage right.  Right…this…way >>>>>>>>

The second part of that “going dutch” business is straight out the window.  The first time it’s initiated it on the first date will be the last date.  Guaranteed.  Either I pay for the date or he does.  It’s really that simple.  There is no “splitting it down the middle.”  If that’s the case, why not just go by yourself?  (Sidebar:  if a female is willing to go dutch, then cool.)

Ask yourself:  would a guy like if I split my attention, my time, my EVERYTHING between him and another guy?  I’m sure the answer is no.   That’s pretty much what you’re saying without saying it.  If you are that “interested,” it really shouldn’t be a problem for any guy to want to pay for anything.

Think of it as an investment.  When a guy initiates the going dutch thing, it’s the same as saying 1. I have better things to do with my time and money than to spend either on her.  Ouch.  Now, before anyone says anything about that, I have no problems paying for anything.  But it won’t be the first date — especially if he asked me on the date.  Besides, that’s what friends are for.  And I will be the first to say that my relationship with my friends and my future boyfriend/man/husband are totally and completely different.

You could do your research for going house-hunting so you could (hopefully) call this “your home” BUT you can’t put in the same effort to see if the female is worth spending your future with?  (TRANSLATION:  investing your time for research to see if your investment will pay off in the long run).

So the questions is:  what are the real signs of a “saditty chick?”